Parenting Teens: The Struggle is Real
Parenting a teenager is like entering a new country without a map. All the hacks and tricks that worked when they were kids? Useless! I used to tell my daughter, “No TV until you do your homework,” and she would run to finish it. Now, at 13, if I try that line, she will just […]
When Fairy Tales Meet Lagos Reality
“Hello” “Hi Brenda, Long time!” “I’m coming to Lagos next week… I’ll finally get to know your house!”, Brenda burst out excitedly. “Next week? Really?… What for?”, I stammered, a mixture of confusing and surprise. “It doesn’t matter jor, at least I’ll get to see the latest Iyawo in Lagos”, she laughed in her usual […]
Fighting Fair in Marriage
Hmmm… marriage has shown me different shades of myself that I didn’t even know existed. And let me just say, I wasn’t always proud of what I saw. I have wasted precious years arguing over things that, looking back, weren’t even that deep. But experience is the best teacher, and now, I know better. If […]
Getting Your Husband More Involved in Parenting
Motherhood often feels like it should come with a superhero cape – so many responsibilities pulling you in different directions, yet never enough time to give each one the attention it deserves. It can be overwhelming! But if there’s one lesson I’ve learned on this parenting journey, it’s this: don’t do it alone, even if […]
Can You Serve God Too Much?
Have you ever found yourself running from one church meeting or program to another, squeezing in work deadlines, managing the children’s activities, shopping, cooking, and still trying to keep your marriage spicy? Ah! I love God and I want to serve Him. I really do but between prayer meetings, Bible study and ministry meetings, sometimes […]
‘Japa’ Wahala: Dealing with the Loneliness
Dear sisters, this ‘japa’ matter has shown me shege. Three years ago, when my closest friend packed her bags and moved to the UK, I nearly entered depression. We used to gist every day, vent at will, and hold each other accountable on our fitfam goals. Then boom! She was gone. Two more close friends […]
Keeping the Spark Alive When Life Gets Too Busy
The other day, right in the middle of work stress and Lagos wahala, my phone buzzed. It was a dispatch rider at my gate. I wasn’t expecting any package, but I went ahead to receive it and when I opened it, there it was… hot, smoky Port Harcourt Boli and fish, sent by my dear […]
Mrs. Fine Lady
Today, I woke up late and missed the staff bus.(Omo na extra fare be that oo but na me over sleep…o ti re body) back to my gist. Getting to the bus stop I took a private car going to Lekki/Ajah, immediately I entered, I scanned through the passengers in case of… you know right?
The Life Partnering Journey
I have a burden in my heart to speak to my unmarried friends on their journey towards having a life partner. There are so many things we take for granted that can dictate the experiences we may face in future. While you enjoy and experience courtship, please have your homework done. In my work with […]
A Tribute To My Father
This year, I chose to celebrate father’s day by writing a tribute to my father – Dr. Ndubuisi Adikema. I hope it inspires someone. My Father had a huge influence in my life as a child. Despite the fact that he had 7 children, he was a best friend to all of us. He understood […]