Parenting Teens: The Struggle is Real
Parenting a teenager is like entering a new country without a map. All the hacks and tricks that worked when they were kids? Useless! I used to tell my daughter, “No TV until you do your homework,” and she would run to finish it. Now, at 13, if I try that line, she will just […]
Getting Your Husband More Involved in Parenting
Motherhood often feels like it should come with a superhero cape – so many responsibilities pulling you in different directions, yet never enough time to give each one the attention it deserves. It can be overwhelming! But if there’s one lesson I’ve learned on this parenting journey, it’s this: don’t do it alone, even if […]
“Gen Z, Gen Alpha, and My Nigerian Mum Wahala”
Raising children in this Gen Z and Gen Alpha era is not for the faint-hearted. If you are a Nigerian Christian mum like me, you already know that wahala no dey finish. My own wahala? Trying to communicate our good old Christian values and traditions to my two wonderfully opinionated children; a 13 year-old girl […]
Are You Raising Weak Children?
Dont let the experiences of your tough times cause you to create weak children because of the easy life you give them. Read that again. In my neighborhood, At the children church I teach, in social gatherings etc, I see weak children raised by parents who went through tough times growing up. In a bid […]
A Tribute To My Father
This year, I chose to celebrate father’s day by writing a tribute to my father – Dr. Ndubuisi Adikema. I hope it inspires someone. My Father had a huge influence in my life as a child. Despite the fact that he had 7 children, he was a best friend to all of us. He understood […]
Homework Fatigue
Am I the only one that feels that homework has become a burden? Growing up, I don’t remember my parents’ spending hours with me ensuring that all my homework is completed. It was my responsibility to do my homework and my Dad’s to check that it has been done well. Yes, my Mum barely got […]
Cut Yourself Some Slack
Her head throbbed as the pounding grew louder… the headache was becoming unbearable and she could hardly open her eyes. “Tobi…” she started to scream then she took a deep breathe and paused. Just last week, she had promised her self to take it easy and no matter how loud the children played or screamed, […]
Boarding School Fever
Dunni walked into the office looking forlorn. I couldn’t help but notice that she was not her usual bright and cheerful self this morning. She would normally bounce into the office with a loud “whasuuuuup!” such a delight and breathe of fresh air after all the drama of Lagos traffic, third mainland bridge and the […]
Dear Tired Mum
Dear tired Mum, There’s no point asking “How are you?” because I know your response. You will most likely say “I am fine” but are you really doing okay? Let’s be honest with ourselves. I know the feeling of juggling work, home front and husband. I know the feeling of trying to be a good […]
Bully Alert!
“Mummy! She is bullying me!” This had recently become a common protest around the house from my younger child and I instantly knew the school had launched an anti-bullying campaign. So, it was no surprise when the school management invited me to give a presentation at Parents Teachers Association (PTA) meeting on “Bullying in the […]